The Narcissistic Vortex From a scientific perspective, a vortex is a mass of swirling matter. Whether it’s composed of air, water, fire, or energy, a vortex’s motion creates suction and draws objects into its empty center. According to that principle, the narcissist’s inner chaos and insatiable need for narcissistic supply creates a magnetic energy vortex […]
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Cutting ties with our abuser and refusing any contact with them is referred to as “going No Contact.” This is a non-negotiable step that most of us must take to heal from narcissistic abuse and find peace. Refusing to have contact with our abuser but not cutting ties is called “No Response.” Allowing them to
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Narcissists are master manipulators who have a whole arsenal of abuse tactics that they use to obtain narcissistic supply (energy, affection, attention), maintain power and superiority over others, and increase their self-esteem. The following are six narcissistic abuse tactics and what they often sound like. Stonewalling The narcissist shuts down and refuses to communicate with
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Discard is the 3rd and final phase of the Narcissistic Abuse Cycle. First came the narcissist’s overwhelming “love” in Phase 1, the Idealization or Love Bombing Phase. Next, the narcissist began their destructive, mind-bending transformation in Phase 2, the Devaluation Phase. In the Discard Phase, the narcissist ends the relationship either by leaving us, kicking
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The pattern is set… The story starts with my father, who was the first narcissist in my life. After beginning to pick up the shattered pieces of myself that were left in his wake and pulling away from him in early adulthood, I continually gravitated toward yet another narcissist to direct my life and to
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Being seen as a victim often has a negative connotation in our society. As victims, it can leave us feeling alone and somehow defective. This blog aims to change that perspective.
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We all know that sinking feeling when we dare to share ourselves deeply, only wanting to be heard, and instead someone minimizes us and our situation, telling us we shouldn’t be feeling the way we do or thinking the things we are. Then, we silence ourselves and retreat back into our protective shell as shame overtakes us. This is an exploration of the societal standard that prevents people from truly being present with one another.
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Some time ago, I learned of the death of a man who I knew socially. We were not close, and I knew little about him, yet there was an endearing connection in our brief interactions. He was the kind of person whose eyes sparkled when he talked, and who brought his heart and humor to
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